Students of the Amravati college in Nagpur said, "I will not get entangled in love and will not do love marriage." (Representational image)
About 40 students of a women’s college in Maharashtra’s Amravati district pledged to desist from “love marriage” on Thursday, the eve of Valentine’s Day. They also pledged against giving or receiving dowry during marriage.
The oath was administered by teachers at the Mahila Kala Vanijya Mahavidyalaya in Chandur Railway town during a National Service Scheme (NSS) camp, which was attended by 100 students. The college is run by an educational organisation, Vidarbha Youth Welfare Society, founded by late Ram Meghe, Congress leader and former state Education Minister. It offers undergraduate and postgraduate courses in arts and commerce.
The oath administered to the students was, “I take the oath that I have complete faith in my parents. So, considering the incidents happening around, I will not get entangled in love and will not do love marriage. Also, I wouldn’t marry anyone demanding dowry. If my parents marry me off by giving dowry due to some social compulsions, as a future mother, I will not take dowry from the parents of my would-be daughter-in-law and will not give dowry for my daughter’s marriage. I am taking this oath for a strong and healthy India.”
“The idea of administering such an oath came to my mind during a discussion with women at the camp on ‘Challenges before youths’. It led to the subject of crimes against women. We have witnessed several such crimes...The abiding question is why is this happening? Can we not do something to end it?” said Pradeep Dande, a professor of Political Science at the college.
“During the discussion, I asked the girls why they get tempted towards love marriage? Why do girls run away? Have they lost faith in their parents? The idea of oath struck me during the discussion.”
Asked if taking the oath was compulsory, Dande said, “No. It was optional. We had no intention to impose it on them. So the girls who agreed took the oath while others stayed out.”
According to the principal of the college, Rajendra Havre, about 40 out of the 100 girls participating in the camp took the oath.
Asked if he agreed with Dande’s idea, Havre said, “It is not a question of being or not being in agreement. Girls run away with auto-rickshaw drivers and pan-thela owners. Do parents send their daughters to college for this? So the idea is they should first concentrate on their studies and think of marriage later.”
Asked how anyone could oppose the idea of falling in love at a young age, Havre said, “Nobody is opposed to love, but the youth must understand the difference between love and sexual attraction. Parents send their children for education and girls run away with someone. It is our duty to inculcate among students values of responsibility towards their parents and their career. Hence the oath.”