Deepika and Ranveer Sindhi and Konkani weddings in Lake Como: Customs and traditions
One of our most favourite Bollywood couple, Ranveer Singh and Deepika Padukone have reached Lake Como in Italy for their wedding.
After dating for six years, the lovely #DeepVeer are all set for a Sindhi-Konkani wedding on November 14 and 15. They are already at the venue with their families.
Amid all the excitement surrounding their wedding, we took out some time to do some research and find out all the rituals and traditions that are a part of Sindhi and Konkani weddings.
So without further ado, let's begin with the Sindhi wedding rituals:
Kacchi Misri: This is the first formal meeting between the bride and groom's family after the wedding gets fixed. The families present each other with gifts and an informal engagement ceremony takes place.
Pakki Misri: The formal engagement ceremony, where the groom's family presents gifts like clothes, jewellery etc. to the bride. The groom's mother presents an earthen pot filled with misri to the bride's mother.
Seven married women then join the bride's mother and they offer prayers to Lord ganesha and ask for his blessings for a hassle free marriage ceremony. The priest also offers prayers to Jhule Lal, the God Sindhis primarily worship.
The bride and groom then exchange rings.
Dev Bithana: This ritual takes place at both the bride's and the groom's places. A stone grinder is installed at the home as the deity by the priest and prayers are offered to it. After this ceremony, the bride and the groom are not supposed to leave their respective homes till the wedding day.
Then, the bride and the groom's brothers are appointed as their guards or Anaars who do everything the bride and groom ask them to do. They do not leave their sides till the wedding day.
Lada: Lada is the equivalent of a Punjabi sangeet ceremony. Women from the groom's family sing traditional folk songs also called Lada and thus begin the pre-wedding festivities.
Tih: The priest from the bride's side visits the groom's place with a bag of rice, sugar, spices, a coconut, 21 sweets, 9 dates and a ball of green silk yarn. Along with these he carries a piece of paper on which the specific auspicious time for the wedding is written.
At the groom's house, he conducts a Ganesh puja with the samagris he has brought with him and places the piece of paper on the groom's lap.
Wanwas: This ritual is conducted separately at the bride's and the groom's side. A priest visits the house one day before the wedding to perform a puja to the stone grinder deity installed in the house during Dev Bithana. Seven married women from each family join in for the next step of the ritual where oil is poured over the bride and groom's heads before they are given a cleansing bath.
Mehendi: A day before the wedding, the bride's hands and feet are decorated with henna. All the women from both the households also get it applied on their hands.
Jenya: This ritual is specific to the groom. He is offered a sacred thread by the priest to tie around his body and a mantra is whispered in his ear which he has to chant everyday.
Saagri: This ritual involves the formal introduction of the bride to the groom's family. Relatives and friends of the groom arrive at the bride's house and present her with gifts.
One by one they are introduced to the bride, to whom they offer their best wishes along with the gifts. The groom's sister gives the bride beautiful floral jewellery to wear.
Ghari Puja: The Ghari Puja is observed at both the bride's and the groom's house separately. The priests hands over a handful of wheat grains to the bride and groom. Some married women grind this wheat to flour. The purpose of this ritual is to ensure prosperity of the household.
WEDDING DAY RITUALS
Navgrahi Puja: This puja is performed on the morning of the wedding. The priest offers prayers to various Gods and Godesses and also to all the nine planets. This is done to appease the stars and deities so that they remove all obstacles from the couple's paths and the wedding progresses smoothly without any problems.
Haldi: A paste of turmeric is applied to the groom and bride separately. Their hair is oiled and then they are given a ceremonial cleansing bath.
Garo Dhaago: The priest performs a puja on the morning of the wedding to offer prayers to the ancestors of both sides. A red thread is tied around the wrists of both the bride and the groom during this puja.
Baraat: The wedding procession starts from the groom's place, complete with his friends and relatives. They approach the wedding venue, singing and dancing to music.
Jaimala: Once the baraat reaches, it is welcomed by the bride's family and proceeded to the stage or mandap. The bride and the groom finally meet and exchange garlands three times.
Palli Pallo: The ends of the bride's dupatta is tied to the groom's. The groom's siter puts two knots along with a few grains of rice.
Hathialo: The right hands of the bride and the groom are tied together with a red scarf. The couple is then made to pray to God and wish for a happy married life.
Kanyadaan: The bride's father officially gives his daughter to the groom and requesting him to take care of his daughter for the rest of their lives. He seals the giving over by pouring holy water over the couple's joined hands.
Phere: A puja is performed by the priest in front of a sacred fire. The priest recites mantras and pours offering to the fire. He then asks the couple to stand up and take four rounds of the fire also called phere. The bride leads during the first three pheras while the groom leads the last one.
While performing each round, the priest recites the couple's wedding vows. The couple utters the sacred vows of marriage and promises to love, care and respect each other for the remainder of their mortal lives.
Saptapadi: Seven piles of rice is placed in front of the couple. The bride has to step on each of these piles of rice while being helped by the groom. The rice piles represent future difficulties in the couple's life and the seven steps together signify the beginning of their journey, while being each other's ally throughout.
These were just the Sindhi wedding rituals. Now let's move on to Konkani wedding rituals.
Nandi puja: The Nandi puja takes place almost 10 days prior to the wedding and is held to invoke blessings of all the Gods, ancestors and the five elements, and to ensure that the rituals and functions are concluded without any hindrance.
A thali is prepared with rice and four coconuts which is called shashe poleru. The married women in the family then perform a puja for the thali, the bride, her parents and the dheddi (a younger sister, usually the next in line for marriage).
During this puja, the bride's wedding clothes and jewellery are also sanctified and she is gven glass bangles that she has to wear till her wedding day.
Edur Kansani: The bride's brother goes to the groom's house and invites them to the wedding venue, with a box of sweets and flowers for the women in the family.
Once the groom and his family reach the venue they are greeted by the bride's family. The women of both the families stand with different thalis in their hands which include the Shashe Poleru, flowers, a rose water sprinkler and haldi.
The sisters of the bride and groom hold thalis with a kalash, a decorated coconut on top of it and a mirror with a golden chain around it. This is called the Kalash Kannadi.
All the women from both families exchange the contents of the thalis in their hands which are significant of different things.
After all this exchange is done, the bride's father gifts the groom with a coconut and leads him by the hand to the stage or mandap.
The families appoint a dheddi and dheddo for the bride and groom respectively. Dheddi is the younger sister of the bride who is next in line for marriage and the dheddo is the younger brother of the groom.
Phool Muddi: It translates to flower and ring and is an imporant ritual of Konkani weddings. The father of the bride gifts a gold ring to the groom and offers presents to his family.
The same ritual happens with the bride to but the ring is replaces with flowers for her.
WEDDING DAY RITUALS
Udida Muhurat: Udida is black gram pulse and is an important part of Konkani culture. It is thus considered auspicious and used on all important occasions. In the Udida Muhurat the bride and the groom separately grind black gram with the help of their dheddi and dheddo.
This ritual takes place to teach the bride and groom the nuances of marital life.
Post this, the families eat idlis made with black gram for an auspicious start to the day.
Kashi Yatra: This is a fun ritual where the groom has to show as if he is giving up worldly possessions and proceeding to Kashi. The bride's father then convinces him to come back and marry his daughter. The groom is also presented with gifts.
Mandap Puja: The groom is sent back to change into his wedding clothes and the bride, by now all decked up in her bridal finery is brought to the mandap by her mother.
The bride and her mother then perform a puja for the mandap after which the mother ties a a chain of black beads around the bride's neck. The bride then returns to the dressing room.
Varmala: Meanwhile the groom arrives in the mandap for a few more rituals and then the dheddo finally leaves his side as he awaits the bride to join him. The bride is escorted by her maternal uncles to the stage in a procession of sorts and in most cases, the last step includes them lifting the bride and carrying her to the centre of the mandap.
The antarpat (a piece of cloth held by two priests from both sides) separates the bride and the groom as the priests from both sides hold the antarpatt and chant the mantras. When the antarpat is finally brought down, the bride and groom put garlands around each other's neck.
Kanyadaan: The bride's father gives her hands in the hands of the groom and her mother pours milk on their hands. The priest chants mantras and the parents give their daughter away.
Kasthali: The bride and the groom finally sit together, with the groom tying the mangalsutra round the bride's neck.
The bride's mother fetches firewood for the homa or havan and then all of the bride's maternal uncles and brothers stand in decreasing order of age, facing the bride and groom. A handful of layi or puffed rice is passed from the youngest member onwards and the bride and groom together put this layi in the homa kund. This process is repeated 5 times.
This is followed by the groom, bride, uncles and brothers taking four rounds of the hama kund, the groom holding the bride by her thumbs. The groom leads in two rounds and the bride in two. After this the eldest uncle puts silver toe rings on the bride's toes.
Saptapadi: The bride and groom stand with seven mounds of rice between them and hold right hands. As the priest chants shlokas, the bride moves ahead, one mound at a time, and finally reaches the groom. They are now officially married and perform the rest of the havan together as a married couple.
After the havan is completed, the bride is given a new saree and jewellery to change into by her mother-in-law.
Honti Bhorche: Once the bride has changed into the saree, her half moon bindi is replaced by a full moon one. This signifies that she is now a married woman. Her mother presents her a coconut, a blouse piece, flowers and haldi kumkum.
The wedding is now officially complete.
Looks like Ranveer and Deepika are in for a fully-packed ride complete with a lot of rituals and customs. We are super excited.