For young couples, monogamy is a 'complicated' concept

The moment you reduce monogamy to sexual fidelity, the issue is trivialized. Secondly, dealing with the question of how happy one is with a marriage, is a total misreading into the concept of marriage itself.

The basis for happiness is righteousness - without that there can be no longlasting happiness, whether it is in a relation or in life in general. Having failed to derive happiness, people search for answers elsewhere, outside the relation, and look for alternatives instead of seeing where *they* have failed. And that is why people fail to remain happy, no matter how many relations they enter. The fact that one tries to build a new relation "from the start" is an escape from the previous failure, who reason is usually attributed to the second party. When every first party starts taking the responsibility, there is no reason for a relation to fail. Yes, there are exceptions - and everyone claims to be an exception, lamenting he or she was unlucky. Which by itself shows that is not an exception but shortage in effort.

After all one can give up family and keep prostituting if it is just a matter of sex. But when people can look beyond that (of course taking it for granted), and think like humans, then marriage is about creating a unit for social stability, where one's offspring can see their security, their emotional fulfillment, a base for their becoming strong characters instead of lacking psychologically. Then marriage is about creating a unit where each individual gives his or her best part of life, and sees fulfilment in it. Then the question of monogamy or something else is based on what level of psychological dependence, security, fulfilment one has and can offer.

It is a teenage-fad to look for sexual fulfilment instead of a depth of relation. If one cannot look beyond that after growing older, then the real question is how civilized and "advanced" we are!

@ Nazeen, Mohd, Md Moin.
Before opposing your logic that a man having multiple wives is very amazing first let me tell you what is monogamy. It is collectively called polygamy when a man has more than one wife (polygyny) or a woman has more than one husband (polyandry). Its not like you imagine that when a husband has more wives its monogamy and when a wife has more husbands its polygamy.
BOTH ARE PLOYGAMY.

regarding your amazing logic: sexual transmitted diseases is possible when one husband has more wives, lets say one of those wives got it from her ex-husband, if I go by your logic then the same applies for a woman with many husbands and they wont get any sexually transmitted diseases. The best possible to prevent this is one husband and one wife.

Now you can identity genetically who is the father if a wife has many husbands, so now is it ok for you, your problem abt parent identity is solved?

will you be very pleased when your wife comes back home with the smell of her other husband and sits on the table to eat, the same applies to you dumbo. dont expect from other what you cant and wont do.

what do you mean by biologically possible for a man and not for woman?, if all the wives are in need of 888 can a husband give it to all of them at the same day or lets say four days straight and again start the cycle the next day. I mean the husband will have to do the act every day for each wife to get her turn once every four days (which is a normal frequency 1 in 4 days).

Go back under the rock!

The Natural mind of man will not be satisfied at all, with anythings of the world. It is selfish and plusher seeking. It is very impotent that each one would control their mind not allowing the selfish and plusher seeking mind rule over.
Bible - Romans 8: 5 - 8
5 For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit.
6 To set our minds on the flesh leads to death, but to set our minds on the Spirit leads to life and peace.
7 That is why the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile toward God. For it refuses to submit to the authority of God's law because it is powerless to do so.
8 Indeed, those who are under the control of the flesh cannot please God.

You have to either please God or please Satan, you and me can not do both at a time, just think where you are. God bless you.

It is stupid to say that monogamy is complicated. Muslims means one out of every four men and women believe in faithfulness. When men fall in love they marry a second wife with the consent of the first wife.Women are faithful and when they cannot get along well with their legal husbands they take divorce and remarry. Majority people respect faithful people. Those who do not believe in monogamy are sick physically, mentally and spiritually.

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The statement of "righteousness" is too good to be true these days...I also used to think that multiple partners are more common amongst teenagers and westerners but i am astonished to see such relations thriving in our Indian society very much...Ppl even crossing the age of 50s (take the case of our politicians) not wary of jumping into such illicit relation...wife swapping and one night stand are the new fad of modern society...How about an Orgy..Ppl now even vote in favor of that..I can never understand human nature for this particular act...there is a whole lot of drama, emotion and stories with this topic...What "righteousness" we are talking about here? I believe ppl with such syndrome definitely need Psychiatric help...They are like comfort eaters who for it just to feel good and get comforted. There is a great degradation of morality today where ppl are losing everything in the name of modernity.

Too much obsession with any concept kills the original sensitivity for the subject. I have a feeling that this obsession was, is and trying to be a way to pull stops on competition at work, industry, everything.. I don't think anyone cares about any such study, percentage or any such nonsense anymore. People are worrying about economy, environment, world peace, who is sitting and doing numbers about this subject? This is a private subject,and families are happy, trust each other until some crackpot like the ones writing such articles start making up tales, pushing some false numbers out there to promote their own personal selfish agenda, which is probably something to do with money, power, religion,ego or some such rubbish that does no good to the majority. People are becoming wise and can smell the rat now..

if widow marriage, alternative after a failed marriage are justified and to be motivated then too much thinking on this subject is a hurdle.

Be a Human being. Do not become an animal. Remain in the majority. Do not join in 'exception to the rule' category. You cannot change your fate, it seems !

Hindus culture allows only monogamy which is being practiced for many years and we see absolutely no problem or complication with that. Many of the christians and Muslims living in inida following the same and the same has become our part of culture. Polygamy may hold good for western culture where they donot have any basic attachment with family members and dont understand the basic value of the life.This may hold good for those who say life is only for sex. But we indians especially hindus strongly believe life is more than that. Let us not give importance for this kind of articles which really spoils the young minds and value of the culture.

I never shared my bed with any other lady except my wife and she also so. We are happy and totally monogamous. If you feel as being monogomous is not possible, it is yours and not the others

Such studies seem to be restricted to sample subjects from America, where people give more weight to materialistic life style and people seem to conveniently ignore spirituality and scriptural exhortations. Notwithstanding, the study will be a forerunner to those outside the America to have a more valid statistically acceptable estimate.

hi dear friends,

it is other way around. it is very complicated to understand 'human person'. it is a logical fallacy to say. there is no monogamy. i think the right human person has to be monogomous. Because it is his nature.

@ nazeen and all others who did comment bout the topic which drifted to chauvinism - Let me help you understand one thing, When you are a hindu and you choose to be an atheist, we still say God is with you and will give you all that you desire and deserve as long as you follow the path of humanity. When you are a muslim and you are an atheist yu are called a kaafir!!! why? yu guys have made it a rule that ppl HAVE to follow the religion... why??? otherwise they would not? we all as adults make our choices for a simple thing a ball point pen - its color... but wen it comes to life and everything i have a rule book that is supposed to be followed or else i will be made a kaafir!!! That is the insecurity that was in the minds of people from when it was made.

It was just a chauvinistic view of running the society and insecurity of women who will bring the truth out in the society or youth who can question certain nonsensical rules.

Monogamy and polygamy is too far a topic to be discussed by you people first start giving women in ur religion some respect then look at any issue.....

Also, don't think so highly of Westerners. They are not always so truthful. Many times they just don't consider it as a wrong. But it is true that they don't try to pretend to be perfect. Most of them

who in the world is saying that monogamy is complicated??? I am an Indian, Christian, living in America and I can honestly say that I have never see a polygamous couple, except on tv. Unfortunately, it is true that spouses cheat on each other, but that is everyone. This is not an issue about religion or the "western world." Christians believe it is a sin to have sex outside of marriage. Of course, not all who claim to be Christian follow all the rules. Regardless, no one considers in "okay" to have sex with multiple partners. It's not just about STDs. It's an emotional thing too. Who wants to be with someone who sleeps with other people?

Am a monogonyst and I'm strong believer in monogomy..This world would be STD free if everyone was...If I'm a monogomyst then that means there are people like me.

monogamy is main pillar which stabilised the institution of marriage.It is good sign of civilization

Civilization is limited to mankind placing many unnatural restrictions and brought in controversies confusing human minds and in any ways it opposes natural law as a monogamy conflict . If one thinks naturally then civilization is anti to law of God and it helps only few

yes monogamy at times become monotonous like having the same food every day a change in taste may bring interest in the desire ultimately comes back to monogamy chEers