Washington, January 17 (ANI): When a spouse begins to act differently than his normal pattern of behaviour, this may be the beginning of very subtle symptoms of a problem, an expert has claimed.
Similar to the common cold, the sneezing and runny nose may go away after a few days, but a symptom that persists and is left untreated rarely correct itself.
According to Benjamin Berkley, Esq, Attorney and Author, clients often give the "symptoms" for why one spouse wanted to leave the marriage, out of which some are very common, the Huffington Post reported.
Some symptoms include - we were spending less and less time together, my life felt unfulfilled, there was so much more I wanted to do, I was feeling depressed or uptight when going home, or not looking forward to going home, we were having less fun when we were together, and time together has become more serious and he was very bossy and always had to be right.
My opinion meant nothing, he had a drinking problem before we married which only got worse, he paid attention to everyone but me, as the years passed, it was evident that we wanted different things and had different needs so we grew further apart, she became emotionally and sexually involved with someone else, followed next.
Next came she was spending more money on "frivolous" unnecessary things and not caring to save for the future, his work consumed him and there was no time left for me, our marriage was never the same after we had kids, when we were arguing, we were verbally attacking each other rather than really listening to each other and I felt put down or taken for granted, or I was doing that to my spouse.
Lastly came there were increased periods of silence between me and my spouse, I had less and less sexual desire, we never seemed to have the money to do things we needed to do, I was making judgments alone or misreading what my spouse wanted to do, I was losing my own identity as an individual and I became confused about where we were going and often talked about 'I' not 'We.'
When questioned further, many clients were able to offer specific signs or symptoms that something was different or changing in their relationship.
Too often, when these symptoms are not addressed or left untreated, they result in irreparable harm to the marriage. As a result, divorce often becomes the only solution. But had these symptoms been recognized earlier, and treated, a marriage may have been saved. (ANI)
