Be lady-like, not aggressive, to succeed at work

RESPONSE TO WOMEN FOLK WHO HAVE ADVERSELY REACTED TO THIS ARTICLE

This is a very interesting topic. I find someone has written "I am sure this was written by a man". There's another comment like "Silly Article! Women are not recruited due to their feminine behaviour. It���s a narrow thinking. Why their efficiency, confidence and other positive points rendered or named as men���s behaviour".
Hi Ladies, let me tell you there's enough truth in the research, though some of you may not like it". Women are recruited for the same qualities that a man is expected to bring with him - knowledge, confidence, poise, professionalism, team working, good ability to make decisions, presentable etc. There is no difference. The problem starts when a man or a woman becomes aggressive. Sometimes people tend to somehow tolerate an aggressive male boss or a colleague but that to also not for too long. That's why you see so much of attrition these days - one key reason being an unpleasant and difficult boss. Please remember that business needs both types of characters - some bad boys and majority good boys. When a woman executive is hired, people have expectations from the beginning that at least a woman would not fall into the category of "bad boys". God has created feminine gender differently, and please don't try and shred those good and attractive demeanour and behaviour that is god gifted by God. In the pursuit of a fast track and a successful career many women tend to behave like "bad boys" in order to deliver quick results and please the top management. There is normally much more adverse reaction if women behave like this, since most people expect women to be pleasant and yet capable and effective, but not rude, rough, argumentative and aggressive. You know why? The fact of the matter is that a woman is a beautiful creation of God. Therefore, people don���t expect the beautiful creation to turn into something that looks ugly. Conversely, ugly men are tolerated but not an ugly woman. Hence ladies do preserve your beauty in spite of being a professional. There are also research studies that say a top women boss in a company can be much more ruthless and difficult to work with; of course there are exceptions too.
Hence please take a much more mature, thoughtful, insightful view of this research instead of instantly reacting and saying that ���it must have been written by a man��� or a ���Silly article���.
Best wishes to all lady professionals. For your curiosity, I am not a MCP but a top management consultant who has advised top boards of most of the leading companies in India and who always takes the side of women in most cases.

Dear Reaserchers you can write how much you want on this topic , but very soon you will have to repeate the same article only difference will be the word men will get replaced with women and word women will get replaced with men. cause very soon it is going to be women's world and not men's world.

If the research report was otherwise none would notice it. Now many men would quote it and many women would frown upon it. This is what the researcher want and the yahoo!!!

nonsense
What matters is your efficiency and a balanced head , whether a man or woman- at least in my profession! nothing can beat your sincerity honesty and ultimately ur relations with others.

Women & Drums: Both require a beating/Kalidas

According to me there should be no discrimation in Men & Women.The person who has talent with the spirit of Hard Working will get success any how.Now a days womens are also working in the same tasks of mens..

Just wanted to say that word hard with loyalty sucess will follow u

It is typical of British. In today's competitive environment whoever holds the responsibility and is accountable needs to be assertive whether it is a lady or a gentleman. Assertive nature need not be treated as aggressiveness or rudeness. After all, bossing over is not at all a male bastian anymore.

This article is really good indeed :) but also in today scenarion man and woman are equal and and expected to work hard , be confident and be polite ... But we can have a bad or or a bad boss who dosent appreciate ur work at all .being a woman we dont react agressivley its just that we handle dynamically thats it ..men and women do equally well yes ofcourse women flirting over bosses are more likely preferred for promotions ... its the fact

Its very nice.
It is well Known that Ladies are gud decision makers and also gud managers. They can manage all tasks in cool and systematic way.

It's the efficiency and smart work that matters at the end of the day.If these things are sidelined then you're nothing but an inefficient person with due respect to your feminine qualities.

Silly Artical !
Women are not recruited due to their femini behaviour. Its a narrow thinking.
Why their efficiency,confidence and other positive points rendered or named as mens behaviour.

Everybody has different nature and attitude one can not say that agressive attitude is masculine or behaving agressive is men's right

Hi, I would like to say, that i "somewhat" agree with and appreciate what you have said. True it is, that each one of us has a role to play. But i really don't understand, why this "MAN vs WOMAN" or anything for that matter. A woman is great in her place and same is for a man. But mind it, i would like to put forward a very true fact, that most of the men have a tendency to underestimate a women and moreover to place women lower than themselves. So, the result is, a rebellious attitude of women towards the world, or for that matter, towards men, which you call it as an aggressive behavior. Most of the men, especially with the Indian male attitude seldom realise the power of a woman. By saying this I am not going against men, but saying the truth. For instance, I can consider the example of driving. Most men think that they are the best drivers, and women are bad ones. But at most of the situations, I have seen the other way round. Women drive in such a cool manner. without showing aggression and road rage, and obey traffic rules. I am a girl, and i can very confidently say that i am a very excellent driver. This can go on and on. But what's the point? God has created two different forms of the human species, each having equal qualities and responsibilities. Just start respecting each other, and the world will be a better place.
But we still have a major problem of men disrespecting women which is a major issue in our country.

Hi Manvi, yours is not only a great response but reflects that you are a very balanced and a very good human being. What you say is very correct. Indian men do have a genuine problem of underestimating women. You know why? They are all feudal and medieval types. Since childhood they have only seen their women folf at home being suppressed by the male members, in those families ladies have no say as they are considered weaker and dependent. This has happened because lack of education and awareness among both male and female family members. Plus women in India and also in the world have historically been oppressed and tortured, they have always been treated badly. But things have changed with the changing world, education and career of women. Now men are gradually coming to take women seriously and almost as equals in every sphere of life. So I had earlier said that women need not become rebellious, rude, rough and lose their feminine beauty, just because of a few rogue men who are crude, feudal and displays useless "mardangi". There are men like us who always respect and value women and their pivotal role - both in the professional world and at home. We wouln't have been what we are today without our wonderful wives. All those successful men you see have all succeeded because they have a women behind them. So don't bother about this unnecessary conflict. It will have to fade away in the natural course. Take care and God bless.

Hi Saheli, I liked reading your comments as it reflects a sense of a responsible lady who is feminine, beautiful and as well as strong when required. That is true "Nari Shakti". You should read what I had to say to some of the ladies who always think they are as good as men, if not better. I don't know why some women try to compete with men. Men are different and they have a role to play, while women are a beautiful creation of God and they should be treasured, valued and respected for the role they play. A woman having a professional career is no issue for anyone, but some of these career women tend to think that they can replace men in this world. Mind you, we men never think that we can replace women folk. So I don't understand this conflict in the minds of many aggressive women. Both genders must co-exist and value each other. Only then there will be a balance in this society. Be happy, take care of your happy family. God bless.

Yes I agree. Very much genuine article.

Truly said: Nonsense article.
The researcher must have beaten by a women. This article shows how much afraid men are now from women working in their so called field.

it is a man's world where the less threatening woman is rewarded by men

there is nothing like feminine special qualities just concentrate on your work and success will come behind you. i think this article doesn't matter for me.

Yes, be a lady and not a Feminazi to out beat competition...

having an aggressive Feminist woman around would be worst than having a crazy DOG around you ..leave alone the impeccable 'MEN' !!

When people from different sexes are empolyed for the same job, they have to work in the same fashion. I have found no difference between their behaviour at work place. I have a long experience of 40 years working with persons of both sexes. I have found both can be equally tough when it comes to checking indiscipline.
The only difference is that a lady is always extended courtsies due to any lady in the society. A very senior person will always talk to a even to a very junior lady with due respect.
Conversely, a seior lady talks tough to junior male if she has to send a strong message. Things can not be generalised in a simplistic way.